Self-Reliance Crafts Retreat. Five Day Midweek Edition.
Wild Harvest are now running our popular Self-Reliance Crafts Retreats for a longer duration to allow more relaxing and reading time.
The retreat is suitable for beginners and it runs for five days and four nights. Arriving Monday lunchtime for meet and greet and the first couple of workshops then settling in to your tipis before gathering round the fire to cook supper. Each day Monday to Friday will begin with a cup of herb tea and eggs from the garden (help yourselves) then, during the week there will be two morning yoga sessions with Sonia Perry, two massages each with Claire Cutler-Casey and Dawn Emmerson and two life-coaching sessions with Sue Doherty, aimed at ensuring you go home fully relaxed and empowered for the next part of your journey. See our ‘Meet the Team’ page for details of course leaders and therapists. The rest of the day will be packed full of workshops and talks interspersed with breathing out time chatting with new friends, reading, playing the Transformation Game, working on your life-coaching notes, sunbathing or sleeping. We even have a wood-fired hot tub so you can take a dip with a glass of wine or mug of herb tea and relax looking over the fields (bring a swimsuit).
Workshops and Talks are as follows:
Leather journal making, candle-making, rag-rugging, willow basket weaving, making natural toiletries (soap, toothpaste, bath-bombs, beeswax mineral tinted lip-balm), wild medicine talk (make an infection busting tincture and wound healing ointment), instinctive archery, permaculture design session, natural beekeeping talk inc. have-a-go at making a bee-skep, cheese and butter making, wild food foraging and pizza making, fire-lighting and making a leather (tinder) pouch with Paul Dore Bushcraft. Finally you can release your inner Katniss Everdean with a session in instinctive archery with our beautiful wooden bows.
Participants will go home with their arms full of their hand-made natural crafts plus the knowledge of how to do it all again. New friendships are formed around the campfires and everyone leaves feeling connected, relaxed and empowered!
You will make/take home:
A leather journal
Beeswax Candles of two types.
Fat Lamp in claypot with nettle wick.
A willow basket
A rag rug
Two beeswax lip balms of different colours scents
Two bars of glycerine soap
A wound healing ointment
An infection busting tincture
A Permaculture Plan of your own Plot
A leather pouch
Tipis are carpeted and have fold out chair beds with proper hotel quality duvet bedding. Mini wood-burners heat the tipis and candles light them. Tipis are same-sex shared with two or three other ladies but this isn’t a problem as you don’t choose your tipi until the end of the first day by which time everyone has connected! There is a covered fire circle and picnic benches plus a communal cosy hut. Just one minute walk from the tipi site is the loo/sink, fridge room, a courtyard and the crafts workshop. See our Tipi Site Page for more info. on the venue.
One plant-based, two-course meal a day Tuesday – Friday will be provided along with refreshments. Please bring 4 x breakfasts and some bbq food for the first night. You may help yourselves to eggs and herbs from the garden. On two or three of the evenings we go to local pubs where meals can be purchased from £7 – £14.
Come along on your own or bring a friend or family member! See our Facebook page for many more photos including reviews of Wild Harvest. Some Photos of Previous Self-Reliance Crafts Retreats:
“We just wanted to say a huge thank you for such a fantastic weekend on the self-sufficiency craft camp. It was everything we hoped it would be, and more! You made us feel so welcome and relaxed from the minute we arrived and we loved the range of activities that were involved. We’ve come away feeling relaxed and happy to have learned so much, and to have made many new friends 🙂 We’re really impressed with our goody bag of homemade crafts that we got to take home afterwards too! We’ve already enjoyed the candles, ointments and bath bombs since returning home.” Gabbi.
“Fantastic weekend at the Self Sufficiency Camp, with a good balance of learning new skills and relaxation. Di is friendly, welcoming and very knowledgeable, and her passion is inspiring. Would highly recommend to those looking for a weekend away from the pace of modern life, learning traditional, practical skills and enjoying the natural environment that’s all around us but often overlooked.” Adam
“I travelled in each day from York which is only a 20 minute drive away. At the end of the weekend it is lovely to take home the variety of things we made. I personally found the experience very exciting, empowering and already (two days after returning home) am considering going on another course to learn more and make more new friends.” Stephanie
“Man is his own star”*
What is Self-Reliance?
Oxford Dictionaries states it is:
“Reliance on one’s own powers and resources rather than those of others”.
This can be in the realms of housing, health care, mental health, parenting, fitness plus knowledge and skill development (education).
‘Others’ could mean; your parents/ a partner/ your children/shops/doctors/teacher. ‘Other’ is anyone or anything you seek recourse to for the fulfilment of basic needs in the above realms. Ask yourself how much do you depend on these others for the provision of your basic needs such as food provision, energy, health care even mental health and education? Most people are very reliant on external sources.
Where Has Self-Reliance Gone?
Words used to describe someone who lacks much self-reliance could be: flakey, weak, incompetent or dependent. Have you ever used these words to describe someone? We are not destined to be weak and full of excuses – too much comfort and care makes us this way! Like the girdle principle the more we are supported the weaker we become. We are actually optimised to survive yet its all too easy to learn to say ‘no’ or I’ can’t’ if someone else is there to pick up the pieces, if there is no real-world consequence to our inaction. In evolutionary biology – apes will continue to parent their children for longer if there is a safe environment to raise them. Plenty of food and no predators mean the parents allow the young apes to be reliant for much more and much longer than in times of adversity when the parents will expect the child to walk and seek his own food much earlier. This is so the mothers resources can spread between the other younger children and herself. As we have lived in times of plenty and with little threat over the last 60 years we have been increasingly allowed to become less capable especially earlier on in life by parents and by the state. Law also supports this, children can no longer be left alone, they cant work with machinery in the fields – they are safe, yes, but young people are becoming less competent at life skills. Busy parents are bombarded with images of bad consequences in sensationalist media so rarely allow their children to take ‘risks’; to light a fire or even make their own dinner today.
With increasing reports of possible disaster whether from economic break down, climatic event or terrorist attack this situation needs to be addressed. The governments own report the National Security Strategy suggests that in the event of a major national incident we should look to ‘foster domestic resilience’. But have we any left?!
We survived the second world war because people could light a fire, bake from scratch, grow veg, make things – all skills we don’t have now. How would you feed and heat your family without recourse to the above ‘others’?
Developing Greater Self-Reliance
It is often those who have had the toughest life situations that display greater self-reliance but how can others interested in improving their self-reliance and reducing their dependence on external sources begin?
One of the greatest facets of self-reliance is mind-set and a tough mind-set is usually the product of a ‘have to or die’ lifestyle where weakness, apathy, laziness and reliance on external people or resources are not an option. When no one is there to pick up the pieces of a lazy decision a person has no choice but to adapt or die, again its evolutionary biology. Life should be a struggle occasionally, you should be ok being more productive and efficient than relaxed and lazy. Accept that pain and discomfort are ok to endure occasionally and see it as strength giving. Develop a positive mental outlook to adversity and discomfort – seeing adversity in a positive light is the first step to transiting toward experiments in self-reliance. To those unaccustomed to adversity or discomfort even the slightest expectation of competence in a situation can reduce them to wails and tears. We have become ‘dumbed down by comfort’, but growth cannot happen without a bit of self-sacrifice or discomfort. Remember the girdle principle? Step 1 – Remove the support to develop your own muscle tone!
Another aspect of mind-set is self-talk – does your inner dialogue involve excuses? Im tired? I can do it later? Ive no money, Ive got the kids to look after? Ill do it when I lose some weight? Learn to hear the excuses in your head then dismiss them. Also, write down your common excuses. When we write our excuses down they can often seem lame, even more so if we have to show them to someone else. Accountability to others sometimes makes it harder to ‘opt-out’ and be flakey. Make your self-talk positive action-orientated like ‘ just do it’ and communicate your intentions to others to make it harder to back out. Step 2 – Write down your common excuses here:
_______________________________________________________________________ Now, pack them away!
Ridding Yourself of External Fetters to growth
Conversely excuses may come from external sources rather than inner dialogue – there may be certain people in our lives that allow and actually encourage us toward making these excuses to NOT become self-reliant, these people usually have their own agendas – ask yourself ‘do the people in my life encourage me towards independence and to ‘have-a-go’ or do they allow or make excuses why I shouldn’t? Get rid of all excuses whether they are your own or coming from external sources. Learn to ignore the nay sayers, its your right and your duty to become the best, strongest, fittest most compassionate intelligent person you can be in this life! If something or someone is holding you back from this, walk away. Is there anyone in your life who is suggesting you can’t or shouldn’t do something that will ultimately make you grow stronger? Step 3 – Don’t listen to the nay-sayers!
So, mind-set is the first point on our journey. Free yourself from crutches, excuses and things or people holding you back and embrace the negatives as challenges – then just do it!
Become the master of your work not the other way round – using time management tools such as automation, delegation, prioritisation, time blocking. Make a list each day, stop multitasking important jobs and focus on one at a time until completion, prioritising them according to deadline and then cross it off. Automate certain things like grocery shopping by creating a favourites list online and setting up a regular delivery, link all your email accounts to one inbox then create a to-do mailbox and simply drag those emails that need attention into the ‘to-do’ mailbox and ignore the rest, work only from your ‘to-do’ inbox. After dealing with them in the to-do box you can file drag them into other mailboxes – eg. newsletters, car, marketing tips, household, etc. Don’t consume other peoples ‘lifestyle’ blogs. Lifestyle blogs are just diaries of other peoples lives – you should be living your own! Instead become unashamedly relevant data hungry. There are even apps that condense texts whether written or audio into bitesized chunks of relevant data (factor analysing in psych speak) Same with tv viewing – how much time is wasted on inane passive tv consumption? Have a movie night two or even three times a week, watch a couple of specific documentaries but tv should be off the rest of the time. You should not sit for hours each night in front of a tv passively consuming calories and other peoples fictional life stories – if you have to bin it. My kids grew up with no TV If your kids are still young or you have no kids at home then you really don’t need a tv. You wont believe how much time you will free up to: make cheese? learn a language? watch you-tube videos about how to service your car? What self-empowerment activity would you do with this new free time?
Raise The Bar On Energy
Stop feeling tired and get more energy = diet/fitness/health all linked in – try reducing carbs including sugar and wheat and eat more veg and protein based eg. start the day with a green smoothie rather than toast. Having more energy to get things done makes saying yes to opportunities for growth easier as physical energy will be high enough to actually action it. In addition to more energy you will achieve better health and the best body shape for you. Simply add more physical activity to each day. With your new tv free evenings join a walking/cycling group to further increase stamina and fitness – this may seem paradoxical to someone who feels tired all the time, but unless you have an untreatable illness then usually expending energy begets more energy. Im a lifelong anaemic but still became British Champion Ladies lightweight Tae Kwon do Champion as a single Mum with three kids around my ankles. Energy begets energy…sedentary lifestyles are actually more tiring!
Learn to say yes and no in the right places. If it serves your growth towards being a more efficient strong human being say YES to an opportunity without thinking how it will be met. Learn to say NO to tasks you don’t really want to do or have time to do that don’t serve your growth. I stopped ironing over a decade ago and even though I speak at National shows have never felt crumpled! I also stopped crossing oceans for relatives, friends or lovers who wouldn’t cross puddles for me. Leave behind those people that don’t serve your growth (or that of planet/people in general) because of their own selfishness or because of a weakness that they do not attempt to address. They will keep you from achieving your potential by keeping you down with them – misery likes its own company. Its ok to love someone and say no or let them go if the thing or person is all input and no reward or objectively they are not doing anything good for the world and just complaining.
Develop Practical Skills
List and pursue an interest each year. Spend this year learning about one certain thing that will empower you… it could be baking from scratch, servicing your car, learning to crochet, learning basic plumbing. With Google and You tube you’ve really no excuse not to learn this subject and top it up with local classes or even a residential course somewhere in the country where you will be fully immersed in the subject and meet like-minded people to spur you on your journey. What will your subject for this year be? The idea is to learn lots of things to basic competence level in this lifetime rather than to be an artist in one. The survivor of tomorrow will be a jack of all trades rather than a master of one.
Persevere – stay on task. One of the key tenets in martial arts is perseverance. The feeling of being empowered is much nicer than the feeling of giving up, so keep going. Make yourself a machine that can keep going beyond your old limits! Make a list of achievements to tick off as you go and if you are visual create an A1 sheet with images of the future you.
Reward yourself to make the journey pleasurable I didn’t do this for years as I was so focused on being a mother and Phd student then setting up a business. Now I treat myself to a massage on my birthday, buy nice make up occasionally, go to the gym a couple of times a week including a quiet coffee in the cafe whilst writing, and say ‘no’ to the kids. I also pay for courses I cant really afford out of the grocery shopping and let them eat more simply for a couple of days. Its good to reward yourself for your journey occasionally just don’t make your life more reward than development!
Positive slogans to live by:
- Just do it (no excuses and today!)
- Don’t cross oceans for people who won’t step over puddles for you.
- Misery attracts misery – love and let go of the people who are keeping you down
- Say Yes to opportunities without thinking and No to unnecessary tasks
- Learn a new thing every six months to competence level (rather than artistry)
Wild Harvest School of Self-Reliance ’s mission is to empower you to provide for your own and your families basic needs just using your own resources and those immediately around you. Join a course to weave a basket and take it foraging then make medicines and toiletries with plants and household ingredients, learn to make candles, basic joinery, learn to light a fire and cook on it, learn leatherwork and more with Wild Harvest School of Self-Reliance.
Challenges from Wild Harvest School of Self-Reliance for this Year!
- Bake or cook something on a real fire in your garden
- Make something to wear (this could be a hat, top shoes)
- Change a car wheel or the oil/diesel/air filter
- Create light or fire from just things in your house/garden
- What is one simple illness you suffer ? Learn to treat it with local plants.
- Eat nettles and dandelion leaves.
- Reduce tv and junk food consumption and excercise more.
- *(Quote by Ralph Emmerson who wrote ‘Self-Reliance’ as written in the epilogue to J.Fletcher’s ’Honest Man’)